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Managed

Expert Therapy for ADHD, Anxiety, Trauma, and OCD
In California

ADHD Therapy for Women

ADHD can feel like a constant whirlwind, pulling you in a million directions. You're not alone. Daily life can be an uphill battle against scattered thoughts, disorganization, and overwhelming emotions. It's exhausting trying to navigate a world built for a different pace. It can feel like everyone else has a secret manual for adulting that you're missing. But it's important to remember that you are not defined by your ADHD. There is hope. There's ADHD treatment available that can help you regain control and live a fulfilling life.

Navigating life with ADHD as a woman presents unique challenges. At Night Owl Psychotherapy, I offer personalized ADHD care designed to address these specific hurdles. Whether you're struggling with focus, organization, or emotional regulation, I provide specialized support to help you thrive. My approach integrates evidence-based techniques with an understanding of the daily pressures women face.​

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Myths About ADHD

. General Myths About ADHD Myth 1: ADHD is Just an Excuse for Laziness or Bad Behavior One of the most pervasive myths about ADHD is that it’s simply an excuse for being lazy or misbehaving. This misconception overlooks the neurological basis of the disorder. ADHD affects the brain's executive functions, which include planning, focus, time management, and impulse control. People with ADHD often struggle to complete tasks not because they don’t want to, but because their brains process information and manage tasks differently. Myth 2: ADHD Only Affects Children While ADHD is often diagnosed in childhood, it’s a lifelong condition. Many adults with ADHD were either misdiagnosed or undiagnosed as children, leading to challenges in adulthood such as difficulties in the workplace, maintaining relationships, or managing daily responsibilities. The symptoms may change over time, with hyperactivity often decreasing, but issues with attention and executive function typically persist. Myth 3: All People with ADHD Are Hyperactive The “hyperactivity” in ADHD leads many to believe that all individuals with the disorder are constantly on the move. However, ADHD presents in different ways. Some people with ADHD primarily struggle with inattention, while others may be more hyperactive or impulsive. There’s also a combined presentation, where both inattention and hyperactivity are present. The stereotypical image of a child bouncing off the walls doesn’t capture the full spectrum of ADHD symptoms. Myth 4: ADHD Isn’t a Real Disorder Despite being recognized by major medical organizations, some still believe that ADHD is not a legitimate medical condition. This myth can be harmful, as it dismisses the experiences of those living with ADHD and undermines the importance of treatment. ADHD is well-documented in scientific literature as a neurodevelopmental disorder that can significantly impact one’s quality of life. Myth 5: Medication Is the Only Treatment for ADHD While medication can be a highly effective part of ADHD treatment, it’s not the only option. Many individuals benefit from a combination of medication, therapy, behavioral strategies, and lifestyle changes. Cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT), coaching, mindfulness, and organizational skills training are all valuable tools in managing ADHD symptoms. Myths About ADHD in Women Myth 1: ADHD Only Affects Boys and Men ADHD has long been stereotyped as a disorder that primarily affects boys and men. This myth has contributed to underdiagnosis in girls and women, whose symptoms may be less obvious. Women with ADHD often present with inattentiveness, which can be mistaken for daydreaming or being “scatterbrained,” rather than the disruptive hyperactivity more commonly associated with ADHD in boys. Myth 2: Women Can’t Have ADHD if They Are Successful or High-Achieving Some women may be diagnosed with ADHD later in life, despite having been successful in school or their careers. This is because many women develop strong coping mechanisms to manage their symptoms, masking their struggles. They might excel academically or professionally while internally battling overwhelming stress, anxiety, or perfectionism. Success does not negate the presence of ADHD; it simply means that these women have worked extraordinarily hard to compensate for their symptoms. Myth 3: ADHD Symptoms Are the Same in Men and Women While ADHD is the same condition in both men and women, it often manifests differently between the sexes. Women with ADHD are more likely to experience internalized symptoms such as anxiety, depression, low self-esteem, and chronic stress. They may also be more prone to emotional dysregulation, which can lead to mood swings or difficulties in managing emotions. Understanding these gender-specific presentations is crucial for accurate diagnosis and treatment. Myth 4: ADHD in Women Is Just a Personality Quirk Women with ADHD are sometimes mislabeled as simply being “scatterbrained,” “disorganized,” or “overly emotional.” This trivialization can prevent them from receiving the diagnosis and support they need. ADHD is not a personality trait; it’s a neurological condition that requires appropriate management. Dismissing symptoms as mere quirks can lead to significant challenges in a woman’s personal and professional life. Myth 5: Hormonal Changes Don’t Affect ADHD Symptoms Hormonal fluctuations, such as those occurring during menstruation, pregnancy, or menopause, can significantly impact ADHD symptoms in women. These changes can exacerbate difficulties with attention, mood, and emotional regulation. Despite this, the role of hormones in ADHD is often overlooked, leading to inadequate treatment and support for women during these critical life stages. Don't let these myths stop you. Schedule your free low-stress 15 minute phone consult today.

Anxiety Therapy for Adults

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A relentless storm brewing inside you - that's how anxiety feels. It's a powerful force that keeps you on edge and constantly worried. Racing thoughts consume your mind, leaving you feeling overwhelmed and drained. Physical symptoms like fatigue or a pounding heart add another layer of stress, making it difficult to cope. This constant unease can infiltrate every aspect of your life, casting a long shadow over your days and nights. It distorts your perspective, making it hard to find joy in the moments that matter. You might feel like you're constantly on guard, unable to simply relax and enjoy life. But here's the important thing: you don't have to weather this storm alone.

My anxiety treatment focuses on reducing symptoms through proven methods like Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) and mindfulness. Whether you experience generalized anxiety, social anxiety, or panic attacks, my goal is to help you regain control and find peace.

Myths About Anxiety

. Myth 1: Anxiety Is Just Worrying Too Much Reality: Anxiety is not just excessive worrying; it is a complex mental health condition that affects both the mind and body. While worry is a common symptom, anxiety also includes physical symptoms like increased heart rate, sweating, dizziness, and muscle tension. It can also manifest as panic attacks, social anxiety, or generalized anxiety disorder (GAD), each with its own set of symptoms. Myth 2: Anxiety Is a Sign of Weakness Reality: Anxiety is not a sign of weakness or a character flaw. It is a legitimate medical condition that can affect anyone, regardless of their strength or resilience. Many people with anxiety are incredibly strong and manage their symptoms while continuing to live fulfilling lives. The stigma surrounding mental health can make it harder for individuals to seek help, but it's important to remember that asking for support is a sign of strength, not weakness. Myth 3: You Can Just "Snap Out of It" Reality: Anxiety isn’t something you can simply "snap out of" or overcome with sheer willpower. While some coping strategies, such as mindfulness or relaxation techniques, can help manage anxiety symptoms, they are not a cure. Anxiety often requires a combination of therapy, medication, and lifestyle changes to manage effectively. Dismissing anxiety as something that can be quickly overcome minimizes the experiences of those who struggle with it. Myth 4: Anxiety Only Affects Women Reality: While women are more likely to be diagnosed with anxiety disorders, anxiety affects people of all genders. Men may be less likely to seek help due to societal expectations that discourage them from expressing vulnerability. This can lead to underdiagnosis and untreated anxiety in men. Anxiety does not discriminate based on gender, and it’s important to recognize that anyone can experience it. Myth 5: Anxiety Isn’t a Big Deal Unless You Have Panic Attacks Reality: Anxiety exists on a spectrum, and it’s not limited to panic attacks. Many people experience chronic anxiety that affects their daily lives but may not have panic attacks. Anxiety can manifest as constant worry, avoidance of certain situations, or even physical symptoms like headaches or stomach problems. Just because someone doesn’t have panic attacks doesn’t mean their anxiety isn’t serious or deserving of attention. Myth 6: Anxiety Will Go Away on Its Own Reality: Anxiety doesn’t usually resolve itself without intervention. While some people may experience temporary relief, anxiety often requires professional treatment to manage effectively. Ignoring anxiety can lead to it becoming more severe over time, potentially interfering with work, relationships, and overall quality of life. Early intervention with therapy or medication can make a significant difference in managing anxiety. Myth 7: Anxiety Is Always a Bad Thing Reality: While chronic anxiety can be debilitating, a certain level of anxiety is a normal and even healthy response to stress. It can alert us to danger, help us stay focused, and motivate us to take action. However, when anxiety becomes overwhelming or disproportionate to the situation, it can become problematic. The goal of treatment is not to eliminate anxiety but to manage it in a way that it doesn’t interfere with daily life. Don't let these myths stop you. Schedule your free low-stress 15 minute phone consult today.

Trauma/PTSD Therapy for Adults

Trauma can feel like a deep wound to the very core of your being. It's a jarring experience that shatters your sense of safety and security, leaving you feeling isolated and lost in a fog of pain, fear, and confusion. The world you once knew can feel unsafe and unpredictable. You might struggle to trust others or even yourself. The echoes of trauma can reverberate through your relationships, your self-worth, and your overall well-being, making it difficult to connect with others and feel whole again. It can be a long and difficult journey, but it's important to remember that healing is possible.

Healing from trauma is a deeply personal journey. I offer trauma treatment that’s compassionate and tailored to your experiences. Together, we’ll work to process and move beyond the pain of past experiences, empowering you to live fully in the present.

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Myths About Trauma

. Myth 1: Trauma Only Results from Major Events Reality: Trauma can arise from a wide range of experiences, not just catastrophic events. While it’s true that events like natural disasters, violent assaults, and serious accidents are common sources of trauma, it’s important to recognize that trauma can also result from more subtle, ongoing situations. Emotional abuse, neglect, chronic stress, and even witnessing traumatic events can leave deep psychological scars. Trauma is subjective; what might be traumatic for one person may not be for another. Myth 2: People with Trauma Should Just “Move On” Reality: Healing from trauma is not a matter of simply “getting over it” or “moving on.” Trauma affects the brain and body in ways that can make it difficult to process and recover without proper support. Trauma survivors often experience symptoms such as flashbacks, anxiety, depression, and hypervigilance, which can persist long after the traumatic event. Healing is a gradual process that may require therapy, support groups, and other forms of professional help. Myth 3: Trauma Only Affects Mental Health Reality: Trauma has far-reaching effects that go beyond mental health. It can also impact physical health, relationships, and overall quality of life. Trauma is associated with chronic pain, gastrointestinal issues, and cardiovascular problems. Additionally, trauma can strain relationships, leading to difficulties with trust, intimacy, and communication. Understanding trauma’s holistic impact is crucial for providing comprehensive care and support. Myth 4: If You Don’t Remember the Trauma, It Didn’t Affect You Reality: Memory and trauma are complexly intertwined. Some people may not have clear memories of a traumatic event, especially if it occurred in early childhood or if the brain has suppressed the memory as a coping mechanism. However, the absence of memory does not mean the trauma hasn’t affected the individual. Unconscious memories of trauma can still influence behavior, emotional responses, and physical health. Therapy can help uncover and address these buried experiences. Myth 5: Trauma Is a Sign of Weakness Reality: Experiencing trauma is not a reflection of personal weakness. Trauma can happen to anyone, regardless of their strength, resilience, or character. It’s a natural response to overwhelming circumstances, and how a person reacts is shaped by a myriad of factors, including genetics, previous experiences, and the support system available to them. Recognizing that trauma is a common human experience, not a sign of weakness, is essential for fostering empathy and understanding. Myth 6: Only Combat Veterans Experience PTSD Reality: While post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) was first widely recognized in combat veterans, it is not limited to those who have served in the military. PTSD can develop after any traumatic event, including but not limited to car accidents, sexual assault, natural disasters, and childhood abuse. PTSD affects people of all ages, genders, and backgrounds. Awareness of the broader scope of PTSD is important for identifying and supporting those in need. Myth 7: Talking About Trauma Makes It Worse Reality: While it can be uncomfortable and painful to talk about traumatic experiences, discussing trauma in a safe and supportive environment is often a critical part of the healing process. Bottling up emotions and avoiding the topic can lead to increased stress, anxiety, and isolation. Therapy provides a space to process these experiences, reduce their emotional charge, and work toward healing. It’s important to approach these conversations with sensitivity and care, ensuring that the individual feels heard and supported. Don't let these myths stop you. Schedule your free low-stress 15 minute phone consult today.

OCD Therapy for Adults

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A relentless hurricane trapped within your mind, that's the grip of Obsessive Compulsive Disorder. Intrusive thoughts bombard you like crashing waves, leaving you desperately seeking calm. Compulsive behaviors become the only anchors you see, a chaotic storm dictating your actions. It's a cycle fueled by doubt and fear, a relentless pursuit of control over the uncontrollable. This mental tempest isolates you, leaving you exhausted and feeling hopeless. But remember, even the fiercest hurricanes eventually pass. You don't have to weather this storm alone.

Living with OCD can feel like you’re trapped in an endless loop of intrusive thoughts and compulsive behaviors. My OCD treatment combines exposure and response prevention (ERP) with other evidence-based strategies to help you break free from these patterns and reclaim your life

Myths About OCD

. Myth 1: OCD Is Just About Being Neat and Tidy Reality: One of the most prevalent myths about OCD is that it simply involves a desire to keep things clean and organized. While some individuals with OCD may have concerns about cleanliness, OCD is much more complex. It involves unwanted, intrusive thoughts (obsessions) that cause significant anxiety, and repetitive behaviors or mental acts (compulsions) performed to reduce this anxiety. These obsessions and compulsions can be about a wide range of topics, not just cleanliness or orderliness. Myth 2: Everyone Is “A Little OCD” Sometimes Reality: It’s common to hear people casually say they are “a little OCD” when they like things a certain way. However, this minimizes the true impact of OCD. While many people have preferences or habits, OCD is a debilitating condition that can interfere with daily life. It’s not about personal quirks but rather a serious mental health disorder that requires professional treatment. Myth 3: People With OCD Can Just Stop Their Behaviors Reality: Some people believe that those with OCD can simply stop their compulsive behaviors if they try hard enough. However, compulsions are not just habits; they are driven by intense anxiety and fear. For someone with OCD, not performing these rituals can cause overwhelming distress. Treatment often involves cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT), particularly Exposure and Response Prevention (ERP), which helps individuals gradually face their fears and reduce compulsive behaviors. Myth 4: OCD Is a Rare Condition Reality: Another misconception is that OCD is a rare disorder. In reality, OCD affects about 2-3% of the population, making it more common than people might think. It’s also important to note that OCD affects people of all ages, genders, and backgrounds. Myth 5: OCD Is Caused by Stress or Trauma Reality: While stress or trauma can exacerbate OCD symptoms, they are not the root cause. OCD is a complex disorder with a strong biological component. Research suggests that genetics, brain structure, and functioning, as well as environmental factors, all play a role in the development of OCD. It’s not something that people choose or bring upon themselves. Myth 6: People With OCD Are Always Aware of Their Condition Reality: Not everyone with OCD realizes they have it. Because OCD can manifest in many different ways, some people may not recognize their symptoms as part of the disorder. They might think their thoughts and behaviors are just part of their personality, leading to delays in seeking treatment. Myth 7: OCD Is Only Treatable With Medication Reality: While medication can be an important part of treating OCD, it is not the only option. Cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT), specifically Exposure and Response Prevention (ERP), is considered the gold standard for treating OCD. Many individuals benefit from a combination of therapy and medication, but therapy alone can also be highly effective. Don't let these myths stop you. Schedule your free low-stress 15 minute phone consult today.

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